We should allow ourselves to lament the loss that comes with unwanted singleness. Lament is the way God has designed for us to process pain, and lament is also a doorway to wisdom.
Seeing unwanted singleness as a trial also helps those in the body of Christ truly relate to one another–not based on the uniqueness of our trial, but on our common experience of various trials.
Christians believe that everything in our lives come to us from the hand of God, including the things we don’t want. So, if we have singleness when what we actually desire is marriage, we have a trial – a particular kind of gift.