If we want a strong church, we cannot assume men magically show up.
Complementarianism is not generally about authority/submission, as if they exist in a moral vacuum. It is about what biblical authority/submission look like. Any man who treats his wife in a neglectful or abusive way is no complementarian; he is a walking perversion of manhood in need of repentance.
There is a strain of the manhood movement in the church that troubles me. It’s a version of masculinity that makes Jesus look more like William Wallace than the King of Kings.
The secret to true manhood is . . .
A six pack plays no role in God’s love for you. You being conformed to the physical cultural ideal changes God’s love for you exactly 0%.
The starting point of a redeemed worldview is knowing the greatest danger to any man exists inside of him, not outside.
There is much good in young men rejecting passivity, taking responsibility, and seeking to better themselves. But the arteries of anger, victimhood, and aggressive machismo running through the new masculinity movement do not bode well.
You have enemies as you try to live as a content man. Most of the time we think the enemies are from without—people around us and circumstances upon us. But the true enemies of contentment are within in us, which is where contentment is either fed or starved.
The tragic reversal of manhood noted, there is still hope, great and surging hope. As long as there is a church, there is a place where men are remade.
Men especially don’t know what to do with their passions and desires. We either give in to them recklessly, or try to suppress them, which is equally dangerous. We’ve now had several generations of “men without chests,” as C.S. Lewis suggests, who lack deep wells of emotional energy.
If bravery is to outwardly face what intimidates us, courage is being transparent enough to admit that inwardly we have many fears and wounds.
The impulse that says, "Men should not be there," should be laid to rest. Abortion is a problem for men.
Men, God has given you the privilege of leadership.
What most men fail to see is that they are in the ring with themselves.
There was a time when obeying my parents ended. There will never be a time on this earth when honoring my parents will end.
If we are not willing to suffer for our convictions, then they are not convictions at all, they are conveniences.
All men face similar sexual temptations, but the Christian man is to think actual thoughts—clear, articulate, intentional thoughts. The Christian man doesn't just feel things in his mind; he says things to his mind.
"Where are the men with a moral vision?"
Men today are often drowning is superficial relationships, but do not possesses any genuinely accountable gut-level friendships.
Warrior culture and biblical manhood are not the same thing. They do not lead to the same result.
Where there is a lack of men—mature, godly men—the church will invariably suffer.
We read Ephesians 5:22-26 and there is no avoiding it: God has called men to be spiritual leaders in the home.
Here are four ways to protect women in your singleness that I think will help us churn out less self-centered boys and more biblically-minded men.