We should allow ourselves to lament the loss that comes with unwanted singleness. Lament is the way God has designed for us to process pain, and lament is also a doorway to wisdom.
Seeing unwanted singleness as a trial also helps those in the body of Christ truly relate to one another–not based on the uniqueness of our trial, but on our common experience of various trials.
Christians believe that everything in our lives come to us from the hand of God, including the things we don’t want. So, if we have singleness when what we actually desire is marriage, we have a trial – a particular kind of gift.
Let the unmarried be single if they want, and the married glorify God in their marriage. God has ordained it, and his Word allows it. At the end of the day, God is calling all of us to follow him more than he is asking us to check a certain box about our marital status.
How should a pastor shepherd the single sheep in his flock well without trying to force marriage upon them, make them feel like second-class citizens, or treat them like charity cases?
All theological education exists to build up the church, equip the church, adorn the church, love the church – it is for the church.
While singleness may, at times, be a function of cultural shifts and an extended adolescence among some adults, no single person remains single outside of the sovereignty—and goodness—of God.
Marriage is not sufficient for life and godliness. Jesus is.
When I am tempted to bemoan gifts I feel the Lord has withheld, the Godhood of each person of the Trinity helps me to see God’s gifts correctly.
To set the goal of marriage, to see it as the ultimate prize and pinnacle of life, is destructive to a woman’s heart.