I worked out today for the first time in four years. Yes, you read that right—four years. I’ve walked and done a few small things along the way, but today was the first time I stepped foot in a gym. As a former college athlete, my life used to revolve around getting faster, stronger, and better. Now, it revolves around the needs of others, which is the main reason I haven’t been to the gym in so long.
This gym, like many, has mirrors. I understand what they’re for, but I hesitate to look at myself. I don’t want a view of fat spilling over my sports bra, the new lumps and bumps that weren’t there before having kids, or my legs shaking after a few squats. The last view I saw in this mirror was of a newly retired college athlete with no children and a lot of free time—no stretch marks, no cellulite, no double chin.
Four years and three children later, I turn my back to the mirror so I don’t have to watch a body unfamiliar to me struggle to do things I’ve always done. If I thanked my body for its work in bearing children, would that make me feel better? If I practiced the self-love people rave about, would the sight of myself in the mirror no longer sadden me? Compliments and “You’re doing great!” plastered on cellulite won’t make me hate it less. Thinking or convincing my way out of poor body image is behavior modification, and it offers little long-term hope.
But I am a Christian. I believe God’s Word is true. Every worldly idea about how I should feel about my body—positive or negative—comes under His scrutiny. Here are four foundational points to start building a theology of body image.
- God Owns Our Bodies (1 Cor. 6:19–20; Ps. 100:3).
God did not create us and then leave us to our own devices. He created us and therefore owns our bodies. Whatever we do with them is subject to His judgment and His Word. My body has value simply because it belongs to the Lord.
- Our Bodies Are for God’s Glory (1 Cor. 6:20)
Because God owns our bodies, we should use them for His glory. Whether fighting temptation or viewing our bodies as vessels for His purposes, all we do should honor Him, not ourselves. My body image struggles often stem from self-glorification. When I look in the mirror, I focus on looking like I’ve never had a baby, not on glorifying God. I want toned arms because I want to enjoy the way I look in tank tops, not because I want to lift my children with greater ease. My desires are rooted in beauty standards, not in honoring Christ.
- Our Outward Appearance Should Reflect the Heart (1 Tim. 4:8; 1 Pet. 3:3–4).
If I managed to get washboard abs, you could guarantee that would come at the expense of the duties God has given me to prioritize. The reason I don’t have a perfect stomach is partially because of genetics and mostly because of the lack of time spent pursuing that physique. My outward appearance bears the mark of childbearing, eating in fellowship with friends, and time spent studying Scripture and caring for my home. There’s nothing wrong with having washboard abs. For me personally, though, that wouldn’t be the best use of my time given what God has placed before me. Physical fitness has benefits, but godliness is profitable for all things. Pursuing the Lord through what He has entrusted to me is far more valuable than perfect abs. My outward appearance is far less important than my heart. My outward appearance is so much less important than my heart. Nitpicking my body shows where I’ve neglected adorning my heart with the gospel. Worrying about arm fat reveals a heart far from cultivating a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Pet. 3:1–3).
- This Body Is Marred by a Broken World, but One Day It Will Be Restored (Phil. 3:21).
We struggle with body image because our world—and our bodies—are fallen. Eve likely never had stretch marks in the perfection of the Garden. Our body image can point us toward our true longing: a world no longer distorted by misplaced desires and sin-cursed bodies. What we really want when we look in the mirror likely cannot be attained in this lifetime. No matter how fit we become, we can never stop our bodies from aging. One day, we will return to the dust (Gen. 3:19), but even this is not the end for us! Our bodies will still matter in eternity when we are resurrected to a glorious and perfect body. Even when our bodies fail us, more than jiggly thighs and the “mom pooch,” Christ gives us a future hope that is secure. We will have our glorified body for far longer than we have this broken one now.
Because of these truths, I don’t have to focus on my body’s appearance, what it can or cannot do, or how much space I take up. When I see my imperfect reflection, I can think of the ways God has called me to use my body. I can thank Him for a vessel that does His will. I can look forward to a perfect body that will worship Him fully in Heaven. A biblical view of my body moves me from slavery to an idealized appearance to freedom to enjoy and steward the body I actually have. By seeing my body rightly, I have the opportunity for self-forgetfulness and to exalt Christ with a body that was once my enemy.